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The Post I Never Wrote–Part 2

Deployment

2 Mar

Truthfully, I have no idea how many parts this thing will have! You can start with Part 1 here.


After my parents left, we tried to carry on a “new” normal. We kept up our regular schedule as much as possible, even when I didn’t want to. We got to talk to Ron on the phone almost every day, as he was still in the states for training. The phone calls became a part of our normal routine. Some days the girls would want to talk to him, and some days they didn’t want to. I tried not to push it if they didn’t feel like it.


I started making mental, or even written notes about things to remember to tell him–funny little things, important things, questions about finances, decisions, or parenting. I am not the greatest verbal communicator, but I knew how important it was to keep the lines of communication open during this time, so I tried really hard to talk more on the phone.

I also wrote–which is an easier way for me to express myself. I wrote emails and snail-mail letters telling him big and small stuff and what I was experiencing and feeling. One of the amazing things I did not expect was the way our communication improved through this time! We made comments about how we felt somehow closer to one another, even though physically apart.


We gained a huge new appreciation for one another. The phrase, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder” truly came to life for us. It was like all the little stuff–the little irritations, petty differences, didn’t matter nearly as much anymore. We were somehow able to focus only on what was really important.


The girls and I got to see him for a day right before he actually shipped out. It was a wonderful, short, emotionally packed time, but I’m glad we got it. He had only been gone for about a month, but somehow it was best to be together before the “real” deployment time started.


The plan was for the girls and I to stay in our house until it sold and then make the move to my parents’ place in California. Through an interesting set of circumstances, that I now see as God working out, we ended up renting to some friends and we were able to join my family in June…


Next Wednesday–Part 3 (The ups and downs of living with parents)

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  1. Glynis says

    March 2, 2011 at 7:37 pm

    It must have been so hard for you, but you are very lucky that it has made you all closer. Being with your family will make it easier. I can't wait to read part three.

    I am your new blogging buddy.
    You can find me at http://momsinvent.blogspot.com/

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  2. Glynis says

    March 2, 2011 at 7:37 pm

    It must have been so hard for you, but you are very lucky that it has made you all closer. Being with your family will make it easier. I can't wait to read part three.

    I am your new blogging buddy.
    You can find me at http://momsinvent.blogspot.com/

    Reply
  3. Lisa says

    March 2, 2011 at 8:15 pm

    @Glynis–Glad you dropped by! We did indeed learn many lessons during that time!

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  4. Lisa says

    March 2, 2011 at 8:15 pm

    @Glynis–Glad you dropped by! We did indeed learn many lessons during that time!

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  5. One Christian Mom says

    March 2, 2011 at 9:04 pm

    Lisa,
    First, I am sorry that my first post as your new buddy was such a down one – I understand how hard it is to be going through an emotionally difficult time. It seems you are doing really well with the deployment – and family is really a blessing during these times. I can't wait to read the rest – having just "met" you, I dont even know if this story is past or present!
    God Bless.
    Shellie – OneChristianMom

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  6. One Christian Mom says

    March 2, 2011 at 9:04 pm

    Lisa,
    First, I am sorry that my first post as your new buddy was such a down one – I understand how hard it is to be going through an emotionally difficult time. It seems you are doing really well with the deployment – and family is really a blessing during these times. I can't wait to read the rest – having just "met" you, I dont even know if this story is past or present!
    God Bless.
    Shellie – OneChristianMom

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  7. Cassandra Frear says

    March 3, 2011 at 1:58 am

    I hope your blog encourages some others who have had similar experiences. I'm sure it will!

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  8. Cassandra Frear says

    March 3, 2011 at 1:58 am

    I hope your blog encourages some others who have had similar experiences. I'm sure it will!

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  9. Tanya M. says

    March 3, 2011 at 4:17 am

    Wow, I cant even Imagine how hard that is for all of you. But your husband is very lucky to have such a great support system 🙂 Im your new blogging buddy btw. You can always find me at http://tanyaphotography-piecesofme.blogspot.com/

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  10. Tanya M. says

    March 3, 2011 at 4:17 am

    Wow, I cant even Imagine how hard that is for all of you. But your husband is very lucky to have such a great support system 🙂 Im your new blogging buddy btw. You can always find me at http://tanyaphotography-piecesofme.blogspot.com/

    Reply
  11. Denise says

    March 3, 2011 at 6:30 am

    I so enjoyed reading your first two posts. I can only imagine the emotions…
    Thanks so much for sharing from your heart. You should be proud of your man- and yourself & children.

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  12. Denise says

    March 3, 2011 at 6:30 am

    I so enjoyed reading your first two posts. I can only imagine the emotions…
    Thanks so much for sharing from your heart. You should be proud of your man- and yourself & children.

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  13. Michelle says

    March 4, 2011 at 12:59 pm

    Wow…I was fighting tears through part one, then I had to fight them again through part two. My heart goes out to you…I can only imagine how difficult all that has been. Is your husband home now, or is he still away? (Sorry I don't know…still new to your blog).

    I shared this verse with someone earlier, and I want to share it with you as well. "For I am the Lord your God, who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you." Isaiah 41:13

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  14. Michelle says

    March 4, 2011 at 12:59 pm

    Wow…I was fighting tears through part one, then I had to fight them again through part two. My heart goes out to you…I can only imagine how difficult all that has been. Is your husband home now, or is he still away? (Sorry I don't know…still new to your blog).

    I shared this verse with someone earlier, and I want to share it with you as well. "For I am the Lord your God, who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you." Isaiah 41:13

    Reply

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